As I’ve said in previous posts, if you want to stick to a strength-training program it’s absolutely necessary to find your motivation. Strength-training, per se, is not necessarily fun. People who stick to strength-training programs are those of have developed an interest in which weight-lifting plays a part. Often, these are athletes in heavily strength dependent sports such as American Football, Rugby, Highland Games, Track and Field, etc. However, the most fervent gym-goers tend to be those whose sport is specifically gym-based, such as body-building, Cross-fit, Powerlifting and Olympic weightlifting. It’s very common, once one has developed an interest in one of those sports, to go through “gym-bore” period. You’re excited to find this new interest that has a major positive impact on your life and you’re as giddy a kid on Christmas morning. Do your loved-ones and co-workers a solid, though. Keep it to yourself. Here’s why:
- It’s boring: Yea verily, it’s boring. Of course, it’s interesting to you and your gym buddies but nobody else on God’s green earth cares about your deadlift PR or your new programming. We’ve all heard people droning on about their new diet..how captivated were you about that endlessly fascinating subject? If the subject somehow comes up when you’re among non-gym goers, keep it brief and change the subject or you risk coming off as a narcissistic bore.
- Gym is not LIFE, it’s part of life: I don’t care how good you are at your sport, never forget it should only be one facet of your existence. Outstanding champions such as Muhammed Ali, “Arnold” and Zydrunas Zavickas (Strongman) accomplished quite a bit outside the arena of sports. Unless you are a coach and it’s your job, droning on ad nauseam about training makes you look one dimensional.
- The douche factor: Let’s face it, if you speak about your powerlifting training to people outside the sport, you might not only come off as boring but also like you’re bragging. Hence, douche-y. Things are commonplace amongst powerlifters (say, a 200kg squat for reps) sound somewhat extreme to the uninitiated. So, while maybe you’re not really bragging, but it’s going to sound like you are. And if people think you are literally “flexing” on them, you’ll either turn them off or they respond to what they perceive as intimidation. “Oh yeah, we’ll I benched 360 lbs before…in high school”…
- The frustration factor: See above – if you get caught up in a “I’ve lifted mad weight” conversation with somebody who, shall we say, doesn’t look or speak like they have experience with training, just smile and agree with them. While you may be tempted to press them for details, don’t. For one, it’s an inane conversation for adults to engage in. Really, 360 lbs? Full range of motion? Pause at the bottom, no chest bounce, no help from spotters? Like quarter-squatters, just let them be. It’s frustrating and a little bit silly, but that’s not your problem. Also, if it just so happens they did lift that weight with proper form, you’ll look the world’s biggest insecure tool for trying to call them out.
- Chick magnet, it’s not: Note to the heterosexual males out there – the babes will appreciate those six pack abs and wide shoulders, but preserve some of the mystery. She doesn’t need or want to know about drop sets and how much you spend monthly on creatine. And for my powerlifting boys out there, women could care less about your righteous PRs, you lard asses. Dudes will care, perhaps, but women…nope. Sad, but true. So if you think blathering on about your training will make the fillies come a-running, guess again.
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Good post. Yeah, you’re right–gym is not life, and other people don’t care. On the other hand, I rarely get bored in the gym. I love lifting! (Even after years.)
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Thank you so much…yep, I hear you, I love powerlifting because it keeps me interested, focused. I used to try to get people into it, and while I have managed to get a few people on the righteous path of skwat, binch and deadlift, I probably bored dozens in the process…
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